Ed Ramblings

Shining Star

Everybody who knows me in person knows that I am all about education. There’s not a day where I don’t think about it or not do the act of educating. To me, learning is like food. It’s something I need and crave.

After I had M, I knew soon after that one day she’ll go to kindergarten, middle school, high school and then college. It was the same after I had Jovie. I knew within a few months that she’ll one day go to college. So after settling with the new family addition we opened a college fund and when I heard that hubby can transfer his GI Bill to the girls, I made sure he got on it.

Then last weekend, in the middle of talking about school and how important education is to me, somebody asked, “What if she’s (M) not academic?” I stopped and I most likely looked puzzled and said (in a slow shocked manner), “But my grandpa was academic, my dad’s academic, all my cousins and siblings are academic, I am academic and so of course she will be academic. School ends after university and anything less was never (as far as I know) talked about in my family.” My answer probably came out sounding snobbish but that’s just the way it was. I never realized that college was optional.

Today I had lunch with a friend and I asked her (she happens to have two bright children) about her children’s academic future. I shared with her the little conversation I had last weekend and without going over her answer, she told me more less that since I grew in an environment where I was pushed to have a university degree, it’s only normal if do the same to M and Jovie.

I know that some people think of me as rigid, or really pushy, in this department and I am already called “Tiger Mom” even though trust me, I am not even close (I give this credit to my cousin and a few other friends I know :D) but it’s difficult to be swayed when I have benefitted from having a college education. Even though I am not working and using my degree, I am using my knowledge and discipline to bring up the girls well.

I told hubby (and btw, he didn’t start college until after M was born) that if we had a boy, I’d probably be more open to the idea of the kid going vocational but a girl, even if the girls married some rich dudes, I want to see them be highly educated so that at least they don’t have to rely monetarily on their spouses and to confidently feel equal to their partners (now I am starting to sound like a raging feminist, HA!). But, since I don’t have a boy, I’ll continue to think that the last day of compulsory school for the girls is the day before their college graduations.

As a last note, there are reasons why many organizations want to educate women in developing countries. One of the reasons was explained quite well by UNFPA and I love this little bit, “Education is important for everyone, but it is especially significant for girls and women. This is true not only because education is an entry point to other opportunities, but also because the educational achievements of women can have ripple effects within the family and across generations.”

So not to bore you too much, I did include a card. I used WPlus9′s WONDERFUL new collection to create the card. I LOVE the snow flake die!!!

Laters!!

5 comments

  1. ~amy~ says:

    When I saw your blog post title I wondered who Ed was…LOL.

    Oh come one, we all know that you’re a Tiger Momma {wink}.

    I totally get where you’re coming with…I actually didn’t grad from college until 2006, late bloomer that I am. I’ve never not thought that my kids wouldn’t go to college…it’s probably because I grew up with a father that was a professor.

    I totally LOVE the comment about the ripple effect…honestly that was one of the reasons that prompted my late education…it didn’t seem right for me to encourage my own children to go to college if I hadn’t…you betcha that I always tell them to NOT do it like I did…I want them to have the whole college experience of living on campus, making friendships…yadda yadda yadda.

    BTW, your card is absolutely wow…I need that snowflake die:)

  2. Evelin says:

    Love your card! Love the snowflake :)

    And yes, I agree with you on the importance of education… although my parents did not have the opportunity to go to university as they both had to sacrifice for their younger siblings by starting to work at a young age, they made sure both my brother and I had university/college education.

    It never crossed my mind as well not to get higher education, I guess it’s because I was surrounded by schoolmates who were all focused on the academic side. My father was and still is very strict and has high expectations that we do well in school. He pushed me a lot and made sure my grades were always on the upper percentile. He felt that since he was not able to pursue higher education, his children must never be deprived of that opportunity.

    I am glad he pushed me… was always in the first 2 classes in our grade and was surrounded by friends who placed importance in education… :)

  3. Nina says:

    Lovely card, as ever :) Hm for me it was quite clear that if I want to be an interpreter (which I’ve wanted to become ever since I was 13), I’d have to go to university. So I never really thought twice about that. My parents are both academic and brother is, too – but my grandparents and many members of the wider family are not. I guess that has to do with the history of East Germany.

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