A Little Breakdown
Posted on | July 15, 2009 | 9 Comments |
Well, the girl above, who was so happy to have a sister, wanted her sister to go back in my tummy last night. M was so upset, just crying like crazy because she felt like we were spending too much time with Jovie. In between sobs she said she wanted to be like baby, just drink milk and be carried around. We had a talk but she didn’t want to accept the fact that Jovie needs a lot of care right now. We do spend time with M and we’ve been doing special things for her (e.g. gymnasitcs, the zoo, shopping for big girl stuff, last night crafting) but I do hurry and tend to Jovie when she wakes up from her nap for example. To calm her down both of us came in and planned fun things to do with her… just dad and her or mom and M. Today she’s fine and we’re going to the park and then ice cream with dad (before dinner!!). Friday M and I are scrapbooking with some ladies at church and Saturday her and I might check out a movie. Hopefully M can be patient with us. I told her it’ll get better! Any of you moms experienced something like what M’s feeling? We did prep her before Jovie was born but I guess reality is quite different than what you thought things would be, especially for a 5-yr-old.
So here’s a sister page that I’ve been working on the last few days. The flowers are special! Clouds made them for me (THANKS!!!). Isn’t she awesome and talented!?!?! She should sell these on Etsy {::SMILES}. I love this paper line from My Mind’s Eyes and the apple one from October Afternoon. I did a bit of stamping too: woodgrain (Studio Calico) and SU owls. I used an SU chipboard for the branch and inked it with chocolate chip. The date on the left, I used an American Craft slick surface marker/pen. It was nice. It dried quickly! The rest are just little bits and pieces of stuff from my stash.
Ok, we’re going to get ready to go to the park. Have a great one!!!
Comments
MyFlickr
My Teams
Past DT
Download SU Catty
aaaaww poor M! It sounds normal, so hopefully this will be her one and only outbreak! I have no advice to give, but your layout is cute and love the texture the flowers add!
Add a CommentHey Savitri!
I went through the same. thing. Only worse, b/c Sydney didn’t come out and tell me exactly what she was feeling. So, for one, you’ve got quite a big little girl on your hands. :-) Syd was 4 when Sie was born, and she became the clingiest she’s ever been with me. Now, she’s never complained about her baby brother, she adores him. She takes it out more on us, than him. lol.
Here’s my Mommy opinion: I think you are doing just the right thing with M. You two sat her down and had a talk, so even if she didn’t “get it” immediately, she’ll remember what Mommy and Daddy said. You may have to remind her about it when she’s in a good mood, and not only when she hits another bump in the road (b/c there will prob be more!). Keep up the good work – way to have fun with it… ice cream, crafitng and movies… Fun! :-)
Add a CommentPoor M!
We have it a little bit easier because my DH works at home so Sofi often goes in there to hang out during the day when I’m busy with Z. But DH is planning to move to a real office soon, so I’m sure Sofi will be feeling the jealousy too.
Sounds like you’re doing everything right – special time with just M. I also try to give Sofi a little bit of responsibility like putting Z’s pacifier back in her mouth. I also reward her when she is patient. Like when she has to wait until after I’m done feeding Z to tend to her.
Hang in there!
p.s. Sofi loves to scrap too – wouldn’t it be fun to get together the four of us to scrap? Maybe one day.
Add a CommentOh poor sweet M…My kidlets seem soo old compared to yours and my memory stinks so I don’t have much advice to sling your way…hang in there….super cute lo sista…gives me tons of inspiration…
Add a Commentoh no! poor M. I know how M feels, haha. I clearly remember when my mom had my young sis, I was about 5-6yrs old. I remember crossing my fingers that my mom would have a baby girl so i could play with her. And then I remember feeling anger against my parents for having her, haha. It still hasn’t changed, hehe, somewhat (partly because I was the only girl in the whole entire fam for 3 generations, so that was a bummer at first) ;D But it sounds normal. And you two handled it well, fun activities will help. I really can’t say much from there, I dunn have kids.
About the flowers, I dunn think I could have used them any better, haha. They look gorgeous on your LO! what a neat idea to place them on branches! how fun! I wish someone would pay to get them, hehe. (BUG HUG)
Clouds :D
Add a Commentthat is so sweet that M talks to you about it! i’m sure it’s hard, but it sounds like she’s makin out pretty good these days!
thanks for stopping by my blog! your comment had me crackin up! it’s so funny how we finally talk ourselves into getting rid of stuff, and then once it’s gone we just see it as an opportunity for new things…. haha i do the same!
i love to blog hop when i’m restless too. it’s the perfect time to catch up. i hope you get more sleep tonight :O)
Add a CommentI’m impressed that M could express her feelings so clearly to you. Most kids will be in a funk and we have to figure out why. It sounds like you are doing what you can to make her feel special. There will be some adjustment time for everybody.
Add a CommentJust love this page, Savitri! A great theme and a beautiful layout! Love the DP, those flowers are just fab, and the pic worth a thousand words!
Add a CommentYes, my SIL is facing the same situation now. Her eldest daughter is only 3 years old when she gave birth to her 2nd child. When the baby is in her tummy, we would tell Chloe (her eldest) that the baby belongs to her. And that she has to take care of him when he’s out from mummy’s tummy. I guess she’s too smart and she knows that the baby will eventually get more attention from us. You know what she did? She pinched the baby and there’s one time she pushed him and hit the table corner. My SIL was so upset. But Aidan (the youngest) is already 18 months and started to bully the sister back. How cute! Not to worry so much, Savitri! M will eventually accept the fact and she’ll be a good sister to Jovie :)
Add a Comment