A Tiny Bit of My Past…

Posted on | March 24, 2009 | 20 Comments |

Not a Fairy Tale

I didn’t know if I was ever going to scrapbook any with my ex in it but the challenge at Scrapping the Music: White Horse inspired and pushed me to do it. So thanks for the nudge!!

To me, this is a special layout, this was where it started. Unlike some who dislike their exes to pieces, I chose to remember the life we had together, learn, and be the best possible friend to my ex now (we even met up last month). After we separated we talked about our issues then and slowly figured things out. I think now we have most everything sorted out. Our marriage didn’t have a happily ever after and we had some really tough times but we both learned a lot from it and I cherish the experience more than anything else. What happened to us shaped me and made me who I am today and gave me what I have now. I wouldn’t trade today for a different past. It was really tough but things worked itself out. Life is funny that way, huh?

M loves Taylor Swift. She loves that song where Taylor’s wearing a ball gown. We listen to the Disney station on XM so this White Horse song isn’t unfamiliar. But, I rarely listen to the words, I mostly listen to the melody. So the first time I actually listened to the words were the other day at Scrapping the Music. Although not 100% a reflection of my past relationship it reminded me of who I thought I and my relationship was. I always thought (sometimes still do, ha!) that I was a princess, out there is my prince charming, and just like a fairy tale we’d get married and live happily ever after. So I saved myself for that one person and I found him… or so I thought. We were both really young and sometimes, love just isn’t enough to conquer a lot of heavy life changing issues and personal growth. We had a few huge arguments but we didn’t split up because we hated each others’ guts, we split up because we loved each other. We both wanted the other person to be happy, find that special someone, and learn as much as we can about ourselves. Life is about learning and experiencing, right? So here I am and that’s why the song made me create this layout.

I’ve gotten a better head on me now. I still believe in happily ever after and I really feel like my hubby is my prince charming (and the funniest + hottest man alive ha ha ha) but I’m more realistic about it. My current relationship isn’t tough, we’re very different but we really click and compliment each other well, but we both know we need to work hard at it and try our best to listen to each other and remember. I’m a very lucky person. I’ve only had two special men in my life and the little family that my hubby’s sharing with me is more than I could ever ask for. I’ve got a lot to learn still (and my hubby is always there to help me… even if he sometimes just wants to throw me out the window lol) but right now, I feel very very blessed.

Material: Dec.’08 kit from Scarlet Lime, American Craft Thickers, and K&Co Amy Butler tags. Castle is in Carcassonne, France.

The song:

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Comments

  1. ~dawne posted the following on March 24, 2009 at 1:27 pm.

    This is so sweet Savitri. I love how you backed that MM paper on red. I still think I have some of mine:)

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  2. Ashley C. Newell posted the following on March 24, 2009 at 1:30 pm.

    I don’t know if I would be able to scrap my past like you did, but it says a lot about you! It’s great that you’ve come far beyond the troubles, learned from it, and moved on. Very pretty! Maybe I should finish my wedding scrapbook one day! LOL

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  3. Lauren posted the following on March 24, 2009 at 1:55 pm.

    This is wonderful! Great choice of photos and title!

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  4. Carol (ScrapMomOf2) posted the following on March 24, 2009 at 2:52 pm.

    Wow! This is totally cool! I love that you can scrap your not happily ever after, and be so positive about the fact that it was a growing and learning experience for you! You’re right. All experiences shape you into who you are today. Very cool!! I love what you wrote in your post too!

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  5. ~amy~ posted the following on March 24, 2009 at 3:26 pm.

    Wow…you know what Savitri? You are one amazing chick….seriously….your hubby should be sooo grateful and happy to have you in his life…yup, tell him I said that…I’ll wait….{me waiting and tapping my foot}……okay, now that he even appreciates you more than he ever did…tell him he needs to buy you a ton of scrappy stuff…lol….pom pom ribbon and other gorgeous wide ribbon….what a gorgeous lay out and a splendid way to capture your young life {not that you aren’t young now, you are}…but really capturing what you learned because of your past marriage….

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  6. julie posted the following on March 24, 2009 at 6:00 pm.

    Wow this is a great page. Just gorgeous. I so don’t know if I could scrap my ex as you have. Thanks very much for playing along with us at STM.

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  7. Tiffany posted the following on March 24, 2009 at 10:32 pm.

    Wow, that is very special Savitri….such a heartwarming and courageous story! Thanks for sharing…the layout is beautiful!

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  8. Donna posted the following on March 25, 2009 at 11:34 am.

    hi Savitri, what a nice story, and to see how you have grown and matured is so wonderful for your children to know when they get older and go through so many things. I felt funny posting about my vacation last week and the mixed family we have, but what a nice thing to know that as humans we can CHOOSE to get along and start a different life together as not one but many! hugs~Donna

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  9. Heidi Van Laar posted the following on March 25, 2009 at 2:56 pm.

    The LO is just stunning! I love the bold colors! But what I like most is the great story you’ve told with it!

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  10. Kim Dellow posted the following on March 25, 2009 at 3:56 pm.

    Lovely LO and great to be able to scrap stories like this. They are all part of life after all. Kim

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  11. kathleenh posted the following on March 26, 2009 at 8:52 am.

    Gorgeous page! Yeah, at first it might seem weird scrapping a previous relationship but it was part of you life. I love the honesty behind it and I’m so glad you ultimately found your prince!

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  12. Angie Tieman posted the following on March 28, 2009 at 12:24 am.

    Very cool page! Love the title and how you described it. It’s great the place you can be in now, without being a *Bitter Betty*! Hee! Hee!

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  13. jessica posted the following on March 28, 2009 at 12:49 pm.

    WOW, I love the story that goes along with the LO, and I love that scarlet lime kit, one of my favs! thanks for playing along!

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  14. lori r(loree2000) posted the following on March 28, 2009 at 10:03 pm.

    Fabulous l/o Savitri!! Love the color choice and all the details!

    Thanks for the attached video….she’s such a pretty and talented girl!!

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  15. Alysia posted the following on March 29, 2009 at 1:13 am.

    Wow! This is one of the most creative challenges I’ve ever heard of. I (and my ten year old) love Taylor Swift, and you did such a good job on the layout. I love patterned paper!

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  16. mandysea posted the following on March 29, 2009 at 6:57 am.

    WOW!! I love your choice of colours…..love your story too!
    Well suited to the lyrics!
    thanks for playing along with us at stm!!

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  17. Julie posted the following on March 29, 2009 at 9:10 am.

    Wowwwwwwwwwww…what an amazing story! :):):):):) And BEAUTIFUL LO too!!! LOVEEEEEEEEEEE the colors….and the photos!!!! Thanks sooooooooooooo MUCH for playing along with us at STM! :):):):):):):)

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  18. Kristii posted the following on March 29, 2009 at 11:54 am.

    Savitiri!! It is so good to see you my friend!!! The story behind this layout is amazing!!! Thank you so much for sharing with us!! I am so glad you joined in the fun at STM!!!!

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  19. Annie posted the following on November 12, 2010 at 12:58 pm.

    wow.. another wonderful post.. so beautiful to read about your growth journey and to know what a big heart you have!!!!

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